the anxiety train

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seltzerfordogs
ganseylike

something i feel like queer ppl have been steadily forgetting over the last ten years or so is that “genderqueer” isn’t a specific nonbinary term, or even a synonym for nonbinary - it’s an umbrella term that encompasses nonbinariness and more. 

any flavour of trans (yes including “binary trans”)? you can call yourself genderqueer. fem, butch, androgynous, drag artist, crossdresser, or in any other way gnc? you can also use genderqueer. detrans but not in a radfem death cult kind of way? you too can be genderqueer. “i guess i’m basically cis but my other queer identity impacts my gender in a way that’s hard to put into words-” genderqueer!

it’s entirely acceptable and normal to be genderqueer but not nonbinary or genderqueer but not trans. it means literally nothing but “i’ve got a gender that’s queer” and it fucking rules we should use it so much more

loud-and-queer

This!  There was a period of time where this was well known and understood and then suddenly the genderqueer umbrella was closed up into a word synonymous with nonbinary. I’d just about given up fighting to get that umbrella back open, or at least remind people that it was once much more open.

starlightomatic
genderkoolaid

"no one is super offended or offput by transmascs, they aren't viewed as sexual predators" steve dain was:

  • discouraged from being a tomboy by his counselor as a child (he was told he had "penis envy" and needed to "straighten out" or he'd become a lesbian)
  • accused of "violating God's laws," and called "thing" "creature" "it" after transitioning and returning to his job as a teacher
  • his transition literally "divided the town" he lived in
  • the superintendent fired him for "immoral conduct" and "unfitness"
  • said superintendent also publicly speculated about his genitalia, suggested that he would have to use his own bathroom because "would you want your little girl in the powder room with her?" and spread rumors that he had shown young girls his genitalia & molested them (likely, imo, what he means his "he talked about transitioning to some interested students and their parents got pissed" if there's any truth at all)
  • also said "And I’m telling you, kids here just don’t understand this hanky panky of people going around chopping off their breasts" (fearmongering about top surgery from 1975!)
  • Steve won his wrongful termination suit, but the school board then accused him of misusing sick leave because he took time off to medically transition. He tried to fight this but after four years he could not afford the legal costs.
  • He was never able to return to teaching even after winning his lawsuit because no one would hire him, so he had to completely switch careers.

erasure is not a lack of hatred or violence towards transmascs. its a culture of silence around that violence. you cannot know how people see transmascs by only looking at how they treat us when they think we're cis men.